Miracle morningĀ 

Well I’m 43 days AF and today I have started the miracle morning! It’s a book by Hal Elrod. It basically says you should get up early and do all the stuff we say we are going to but never get round to, before 8am! It can be adjusted according to lifestyle of course. It centres on 6 SAVERS:

Silence or meditation

Affirmations,  basically finding things important to you to achieve and writing them down as if you have already achieved them or are about to. You need to look at why they are important to you. Then you should say them out loud! ! Mine were things like: I am a fantastic kind caring person!etc…not sure that’s right of course.
Visualisation.  You then spend 5 minutes or so visualising achieving the goals, easy bit visualising  living in a palace surrounded by family!! Sort of! Being healthy happy and debt free, more realistically!

Excerise! ! No explanation necessary at least 20 mins of! Did my getfitwithdavina workout.

Read : something to improve yourself 20 mins: I read more of the miracle morning today.

Scribe: write down something anything! Journaling either in a book or digitally,  which is what I’m doing today!

I’m knackered already and I’ve still got to walk the dog and go to work!!

40 days and 40 nights!!

I’m back !!! Managing really well this time, in part due to reading Thisu naked mind by Annie Grace and also joining One Year No Beer. This is a movement online that is gaining momentum and one I would readily recommend to anyone who wants to try living alcohol free for a while or forever!! It has been set up by 2 guys Ruari Fairbairns and Andy Ramage.  It has its own facebook page whereby there is so much support.   The aim of this “movement ” is to start a sea change in how we see alcohol in our lives and how we can live fantastically full lives without it. There are social meet up s in certain places bit there are folk from all over the world taking part. Once you sign up,  free daily emails are sent to help you through the first 90 days and they suggest you set yourself a physical challenge to work towards so it’s mind and body working together to be healthy and happy. The online community is so supportive and I would urge anyone who wants to try it to do so! It’s free and it’s fantastic! 

Everytime I feel the craving to drink I have posted and received support and I think I am beginning to look more long term. I’m still a misery guts at times but I know drinking will only make things worse! I feel a sense of freedom which is the essence of the Annie Grace book. 

In 2 weeks time however my resolve will be severely tested when I go on a weeks holiday to Greece with my heavy drinking friend!  It doesn’t help that the island that we are going to has a six foot long runway and I’m not a good flier so God knows how I’ll cope with that without a drink, but I’m sure I’ll try!! My friend has just informed me her snoring is so bad that when her 2 yr old grandson comes to stay he takes himself to his own room to avoid the noise. One day she said she awoke thinking there was a wild animal in her room only to realise it was her snoring! So I’ve bought 10 sets of earplugs and downloaded a lot of meditation apps!! 

I’m also in the process of training for an ultra marathon in November but as I’m so far behind I’ve had to ramp up the training and now have sciatica!! I’ve got a course to finish essays and exams while working full time and some and I’m supposed to be in the local am dram show! It’s too much I’m making myself ill!!

Anyway I’m sober that’s the main thing!!

Fish and chips Friday!

Well, it’s 8pm on  a Friday and I’m stuffed after eating far too many chips with my fish!! Lovely.  My treat instead of the usual wine o clock at this time.  I’m going to work on the healthy eating once I’ve a few months under my belt.  I’m reading This Naked Mind by Annie Grace and it is totally helping me understand how and why we drink and how stopping is freedom and not something to be endured. Which is what I have been doing everytime I have tried to stop before. It’s learning that it is my journey and I know from experience never has it been a good idea to drink. Too little is not enough and too much is disaster.  She describes well the process of how alcohol metabolises in the body , releasing insulin which lowers the blood sugar requiring more alcohol but we are forever chasing that feel good moment we had during the first 20 minutes of drinking. She also argues that we don’t have to feel we are suffering by not drinking that we are giving something up when in fact we are doing the reverse. We are also fooled into drinking by media, advertising and the idea that there are normal drinkers and we are abnormal. We didn’t need drink to be happy for example when we were children. We had to force ourselves to like drinking it is in fact going against what our bodies need!! Today I read an article that links at least 7 cancers with alcohol from the larynx to the rectum and all places imbetween.  It’s hardly a surprise.  Cancers are caused by an overgrowth of abnormal cells often originating from chronic inflammation.  Alcohol chronically inflames the tissues it’s often just a matter of genetic luck if it triggers a tumour or not. I know most people don’t care about their health when they are actively drinking but being sober and feeling good at the moment this information helps reinforce my determination to live sober. So I will plod on. My aim is to go on my holiday to Greece in September and do it alcohol free. I’m prepping!

This weekend I hope to run on Saturday and go hillwalking Sunday can’t do those hungover that’s for sure!

Shit happens

Sometimes you just have to take stock and be grateful for what you have. This week various things have happened. My mother in law who has dementia is probably going to have to go into residential care. She lives 3 hours away so there is a limit to what we can do.  Although there is an expectation by other family members we should do more. My husbands cousin who has lived with us since she was 12 and  lost her parents, is now nearly 20 and living in her own flat. She is harbouring a lot of resentments towards us as we have moved into her old bedroom even though she has been living away for over a year. Anyway these two things led me to drink on Thursday after a dry spell. I’m back off it again but being off work seems to be a trigger and I have been on holiday from work but just at home. None of us is perfect in life and I’m trying really hard to be kind and patient but my nature isn’t always so. Just human. So now I’m reading This Naked Mind. Going to run today and finish renovating some furniture. Going to try 5:2 this weekend. I can’t change the past although I often wish I could bit I can be a better person. We all can. Let’s give it a try!!

At least the torrential rain today is good for the  flowers !

Week 3 begins!!

Well its been touch and go since the referendum result. I nearly caved in on several occasions but I didn’t.  I found when the cravings came I was able to think it through and push back the decision, sometimes for only an hour, but it was enough to win through!! With all this nervous energy instead of sitting in a haze of wine fuelled oblivion. I got things done!! Yesterday I ran 7 miles in the beautiful forest of Ae . We normally trot round in a leisurely fashion but we got there to find a motor rally was due to start I  just over an hour so it was a race against time. We rewarded ourselves with a cake but for some reason I couldn’t eat it!!! It made me feel sick…whats wrong with me??? I’ve given up alcohol and now my last bastion of comfort…sugar isn’t doing it for me now!!
Got home and my house is a tip. I work long days and never have the energy in the week to do more than wash the dishes and make the bed so it’s apocalyptic by the weekend. I decided to change the beds around as my son’s one was knackered. This entailed having to actually venture in what looked like the black hole of calcutta. I knew once the bed was away there was no going back. 14 years of shite had to be systematically gone through. The difference this time as opposed to every other years both my son and I could actually part with stuff. 9 hours ……Yes 9 HOURS later we had filled the car 3 x over with stuff for the dump. Sorted out enough for a car boot sale next week and totally revamped his room. I have put my back out, my husband moaned throughout and took to drink early on and my son is now sitting  in his room terrified to touch anything as he has been threatened with his life if I ever have to do that again!! So glad I had the energy for all that.
I’ve decided I’m going to be Buddhist about the referendum result and just accept it.  I did post a lot of stuff after on Facebook but it just winds folk up and it’s not worth it. That sort of thing could mess with my sobriety and that is my number one priority just now.

Day 11 and guess what?

Last night the OH mentioned he hadn’t had a drink since the weekend,  admittedly it was only Tuesday but if you knew my OH you would know that to be an achievement. I had mentioned One Year No Beer, which is one website that I follow as I thought it was something he could identify with. The positivity of seeing other guys stop drinking and get there shit together.  Women are on it too but it is run by 2 guys and I thought it might appeal.  When I first mentioned it last week he was pissed and told me to leave him alone. The next day he must of given it some thought, because he said he would take a look.  So he has done 2 days. Not sure how long it will last but you never know! !
I managed a run and a dog walk before work. Felt good in the morning but started to flag about 3pm. House is a pigsty and likely to stay that way until the weekend. It’s overwhelming all that needs to be done in this house it’s got damp and needs decorating and my husband insists  doing it all despite not having a clue how to do it. Anyway we bought it in a moment of madness and we just can’t afford to maintain or improve it.  It’s a real worry for me to be honest. Anyhow I’ll stop going on about it because at least we live in a nice part of the world and have jobs. Got to be grateful.
Tonight my son and I are off to the local high schools production of the Addams Family! ! At least there will be ice cream!!

Double figures ….day 10

Back to work after my busy weekend and I hit a wall about 5.30 tonight. Wanted to run, clean the kitchen cupboards, do loads of stuff but found myself lying on my bed for “5 mins”, fast forward and I wake up 2 hours later.  Totally knackered.  Thought about trying to get up and do some sort of exercise, even just walking the dog but had to just say enough!! The weekend has taken its toll and I need to rest. Start again tomorrow.
In the past when I have successfully navigated my way through special occasions sober, I have found that the sense of achievement and relief brings with it something else…..danger!! I don’t know if it’s complacency or over confidence but this is when I’m likely to drink. It’s a bit like Christmas day, I very rarely overeat on Christmas day but to celebrate that fact I eat like a horse boxing day. I need to be vigilant!

I got into my car this morning after driving my husbands car over the weekend. He had had mine. I turned the ignition to find there was so little fuel in it, it was touch and go if I could make the 10 mile journey to work without conking out. There are no petrol stations en route, I was so angry. I had made sure there was fuel in his when I returned it but he thinks so little of me he couldn’t return the favour. On my journey to work I fantasised leaving him, getting my own place etc. That would show him!  Anyhow by the time I got to work I had calmed down… He had paid for the fuel I used to go on our road trip after all. It’s just  relationships rich tapestry of trying to get through life with a partner without one of us killing the other!  I hope I get that lottery win soon!!

I don’t know if anyone noticed but there’s a referendum on Thursday. When I was in Essex, surprise surprise all I could see from one end of the county to the other were big red LEAVE signs. Scary. I don’t want to blog politics particularly as I don’t know enough about it but I’m shocked and a bit worried now. Being in Scotland I hadn’t realised how divided the UK is and how many folk are prepared to risk unity, economy, peace and even equality because immigration scares people so much. Leaving the EU is not going to stop migration. The world is changing and we have to change with it but not by cutting ourselves off. One look at who’s leading the leave campaign is enough for me to know I want to stay! Rant over!